I want to get off pills, but I can't! PLEASE any advice/suggestions?

It started out recreationally, which is below anything I thought I would ever do..but I did. Now, I'm addicted to Roxys. I have tried to get off of them cold turkey many times but have been unsucessful. I can't handle the terrible body aches, unrelenting chills, stomach pain, sweating, total lack of energy and depression. I work two jobs, I'm a full-time graduate student, and I'm married (my husband has NO IDEA about this situation). Therefore, I can't completely quit my life in order to attempt to tough out the withdrawal...I don't have time and there is no way I could do everything I need to do while going through those hellish withdrawals. I can't confide in my husband. He is NOT approachable and does NOT tolerate anything like that. I am certain he would tell everyone and divorce me. Every home remedy I have tried has not worked. I have access to "benzos" as I've read many times as a suggestion but all they do is add to the lack of energy and depression. Smoking weed is not an option...not my thing. There is no way I can continue my life like this. I'm tired of spending all my money on them and constantly worrying about when and how I will get my next fix. I can't afford to get "high" anymore, I can only somehow manage to "get by" which requires atleast two 30mg roxys per day. Where I live, they are $35/piece. $70/day to just get me through my day, no enjoyment, no euphoria, nothing...just no sickness. If I were to get high I would have to spend $140 in one day which I NEVER do anymore. I just want away from them for good. But how do I detox without my husband knowing and not being deathly ill so that I can do the MANY things I HAVE to do every day? Before anyone says, "Just suck it up and do it", you obviously don't know how it feels or you didn't have any major life responsibilities that prevented you from being bed-ridden for a week. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE any helpful advice/suggestions would be greatly appreciated.